Wednesday, March 30, 2016

The Devil at Work in Bear's Home

If you read "Bear's TLDR Easter Manifesto [Re-Updated]" your life was enriched beyond words. Unfortunately, TLDR stands for "too long, didn't read" so you probably didn't.  Sometimes the Bear gets carried away, depending on how much neurotransmitters his synapses are marinating in, in compliance with Fish, Game, and Wildlife Department of Large Talking Predators requirements.

If you did happen to read that, you know the Bear's Easter was awful. He was unable to wake up and go to Mass.

The Devil, who has a wonderful sense of humor, the Bear has discovered, had gotten the Bear and his mate arguing about which prayer book we were going to use. We have our simple four-week psalter meant to be sung; Christian Prayer, which is a pared down version of the full Liturgy of the Hours, but still has seasonal material; and the actual four-volume Liturgy of the Hours. Then we also have two choices on glass: Divine Office and Universalis.

The Bear will spare you the details, but that's right, which prayer book to use caused domestic strife to the point where we didn't do anything. You have to give Old Scratch credit.

The truth is, it doesn't matter. We should not insist on having our way. That is Marriage 101. But the ego rises up like a Bear and roars, sometimes, doesn't it? Stupid issues like this seem important and take on a life of their own, all powered by ego, then anger. It's like the arguments Orthodox have over calendars.

It's all ironed out now. We use Christian Prayer. End of story.

13 comments:

  1. I had a conversation w/my dad about the sad state of illegitimate births, shack ups, changing partners. We commented that in prior times the couple made the best of it. Got married, gave the child a home and kept at it b/c it was the right thing to do. They might have made mistakes but they did the right thing fundamentally to give their children a stable home. We don't praise them for that. Marriage is hard. Raising children is hard. (I am not patting myself here. But thinking how courageous and responsible people were in prior times.) Today, it's "personal happiness" or sexual satisfaction that rules the lives of adults, children be damned. And indeed they are, tragically harmed, emotionally spiritually and physically.

    We're supposed to celebrate "heroic" single moms (how about dads?). No the real heroes are the men and women who join themselves together for the sake of their children, sacrificing their alleged need of happiness for the wellbeing of the children. That's heroic. That's who Francis' synod was supposed to support. It is NOT easy today to live the gospel. I told PSR students that our homes are the hardest places to live our Christian lives.

    Ok. Done. God bless you and Mrs. Bear. It is a silly thing. Thank goodness you can see it. Pax.

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    1. Sometimes couples argue, but sometimes there is "argument +" You sense it. This has the Devil's fingerprints all over it. It is very difficult to be married to a Bear, anyway. There's a band the Bear likes called "Devil Makes Three." Ain't it the truth.

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    2. Thank you. I have begun to feel rather passionate about this watching some extended relatives (just seen on Easter) really mess up their lives and the lives of the children created. 35 yrs old, a 5th baby en route, at least the 4th father...lost custody of 1st three to a lousy druggie, to whom she was actually married! God protect those children.

      The sexual revolution has done nothing for women and has harmed children greatly. Men are the big winners, I dare say.

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  2. Universals is great if you use e-readers. But if you can, you should look into The Mundelein Psalter. Its a very simple way to get into chanting the hours.

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    1. Our oblate abbey has published a four-week psalter with our own 8 tones (16 if you count 5,6 or 2,3 verses in a stanza). The Bear loves to sing the psalter, but oh well, that's one of life's pleasures that will denied to him -- NOW see what you've done??!!

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  3. Seems as though the devil is at work in MANY homes as of late, bear! And I as well will spare the details, but Holy Week around here was like 'Holy
    H _ _ _ Week. We did pull off Easter Sunday, but the devil gave us a run for our money off and on all week long. He is working OVERTIME in families. If I could just keep at the forefront of my mind that he 'prowls around like a roaring lion' Ugh!!

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  4. Forgiveness is a wonderful thing in marriage. Satan hates it, and he hates it with the fury of a thousand suns. (h/t "Dilbert". Satan also hates being laughed at).

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  5. Funny, Bear doesn't remember that it used to be that way.

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  6. I really appreciate your honesty. For sure, many or most of your reading ephemerati have had, or soon will have similar tales to tell. Oh yeah, we have all been there.

    My wife and I were just talking this morning about how these days, that offer so little solace in the Church, demand we make an act of pure will to remain there. MotherTheresa lived in physical squalor and hardship. She was recompensed and aided in her trials with frequent and long-term bouts of spiritual darkness; like her Lord who was offered all the kingdoms of the world and chose a life of trials and loneliness and crucifixion instead. She persevered with her will. She shouldered her cross and chose God in her spiritual,solitude..

    No fairy tale ending there. No, her fairy tale is just now beginning in the glory of her Chosen One.

    I sure like your commentary and insightful honesty. Thanks for it. Hope all is well.

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    1. There's more honesty in this ephemeris of a Bear than 100 human ephemera. Go figure. God has never made it easy for the Bear. Guess He figures a Bear can handle it.

      But this is why the Bear developed his signature spirituality of "Nail your foot to the floor in front of your favorite pew, and die there." When you can't do anything else, you can (usually) put your butt in the pew. The Bear thinks the honey is called "consolations" and God doesn't provide it very often. Not that the Bear deserves any.

      Everything's fine between Bear and his former driver, bodyguard and factotum, Red Death, a.k.a. the Shepherdess, in other words his mate. It is difficult living with a Bear. (It is also difficult living with someone named Red Death. She's a lot like Cato in the Pink Panther movies. Attacking without warning to keep the Bear on his toes.) We could be more careful about the communication strategies we employ. Roaring vs. setting on fire may not be the best, the Bear is thinking.

      Fish, Game, and Wildlife Department of Large Talking Predators has yet to develop proper Bear doses of the psychotropic medication they provide, and the Bear has a wicked tranquilizer dart habit. Now they want to do ECT, but it takes so long for the fur to grow back on Bear's head.

      But the good news is that the Bear figured out he can -- theoretically -- be pope. "Fat chance," you say. But the Bear is 1300 years old now, so who knows what may happen in the future. The Bear would be an awesome pope. He'd have to double the bearers (ha) for the sedia gestatoria because he would like live in that sweet ride. He would go infallible and make sure people were like, "Vatican II? What's that?" And then make it infallibly instant excommunication to ever change anything ever again. Now, is that a plan, or what?

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  7. We're heroic when we have those disagreements and work through it another day. That's the beauty of it, the working through it and just plain sticking with it, come Hell or high water. Sometimes it's her way, sometimes it's yours. But holidays are extra pressure for lots of reasons, and can leave us tense and feeling overwhelmed. Not to mention, these are very trying times! I think back to before 9/11 and wonder why we didn't realize we lived in utopia.

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    1. Yup. Bear tends to attribute most of it to devils.

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